I started temping yesterday at one of those schools you see advertised on TV–get your certificate in Adminitrative Assistance, Carpentry, Nursing Assistance, etc. in a short amount of time. Will find you a job shortly thereafter. Change your life, etc. etc.
At least this place doesn’t have the annoying National American University song.
The interesting part about this job is that the students, and I think exclusively the staff with the exception of the keyboarding instructor and the development director, are all African-American. This is a situation in which I don’t usually find myself. I grew up in the sixth whitest suburb in the nation. I went to college that had a fairly similar diversity demographic. And foreign study? Ireland.
I’m not proud of this by any means. But it just kind of happened that way.
I answered the phone yesterday at one point and the guy on the other end of the line said, “What you sounded so professional for? You tryin’ to be white or something?”
I wasn’t quite sure what to make of that comment. Especially when he went on, after establishing the fact that he was talking to “some white woman”, that he was trying to get a job reference from the school.
I would have laughed it off, except I had nearly the same conversation three more times on the phone.
The topic of isms of any kind and being members of a minority group is something I think about a lot. And I go back and forth on whether or not it’s a good thing to be part of a minority that doesn’t have a visually apparent difference (well, that’s not entirely true. I look pretty gay most of the time).
But, if I so choose, I can hide that difference. Play the pronoun game, choose not to reveal it. Does it let me assimilate into society that would otherwise be prone to reject me? Of course it does. It sure worked at Concordia. Works at church, too.
But there’s a drawback to it as well. It’s hard to foster community, fight for rights, when you can hide as part of the majority. It’s one of the reasons I think the gay rights movement is so far behind the other civil rights groups. And it’s the reason why there is a latent fear about homosexuality–because you don’t know where we are. We’re like spies. Or vending machine camouflage.
I wonder what someone would say to me if I answered the phone “gay”. I don’t even know I’m sure what that would sound like.